Humility in An Apology

I have never been the type of person to hold a grudge when some one has done me wrong. Nor have I ever held my breath waiting for a deserving apology. How ever I have always been the type of person who will apologize when I am in the wrong. It is my belief that in feeling sorry about something I've done, does not mean I should necessarily feel weak. The fact that I did something wrong does not make me a less worthy person. There is no one on this plant who is free of ever doing something wrong. It is how we handle our wrong doing's that make us better versions of ourselves. We all mistakes and apologizing is a gesture of humility. To have humility makes us remarkably likable. When people are modest, sincere and humble we find ourselves very drawn to them as they possess those qualities we all admire in a person. A sincere apology should never put any pressure on the person receiving the apology to accept it. If I'm going to take ownership for my error when I have made a mistake, I certainly want to be sincere in my apology and ensure the person receiving my apology feels and knows I am being genuine. Otherwise why even bothering to apologize? By being sincere in your apology, you freely admit the powerlessness to change or influence the other’s feelings, and just accepts things as they are. A sincere apology should make you feel relieved and stronger, like you have truly dealt with something and put the worst of it behind you.

I would never apologize to someone unless it was coming from a place of self-respect. A truly sincere apology works two ways, you see; the other person gets the recognition that you have witnessed their pain, and that you truly care. But you also get the recognition from yourself that you are doing what it takes to get back on the right track, if you will. A true apology liberates you for that moment in having to fix anything or change anything. The act of apologizing is an admission that you either don’t know what to fix or how, or that it’s just not your place to try. It takes a certain strength, to be able to stand there in acceptance of the things you can’t change when the time comes to say you’re sorry or you were wrong. Now I have made some apologies in my past to friends where I felt I was certainly in the wrong. Most friends have openly accepted my sincere apology, but there is always the possibility that your friend will not listen to your apology. But if they do listen, which they often will, you will become a better person, as you are not only being strong for yourself; you are strong for your potential partner in the apologizing process. Even if your apology is not accepted right away, you can walk away knowing you made a sincere effort from your heart to be a better person.